Published on : 11 October 20223 min reading time

Passion does not age, and neither does desire. On the contrary, often after the fifties, sexuality lives a second youth.
Today, even television and the media talk about it without taboos, there is indeed a sexual life after 50! Obviously, the secret is to accept the changes in your body. According to recent studies and interviews, the most sexually active women are precisely those between 40 and 50 years old, so much so that more and more women of this age are looking for younger partners to guarantee their satisfaction. A fulfilling sex life seems to be the fundamental ingredient to keep a good self-esteem, to feel fit and psychologically serene.

NEW APPROACHES

You don’t have to have been a great lover in the past to have a happy relationship after fifty. In this new phase of life, you can discover other approaches to sexuality, completely different from those of the past. In this period, we can enjoy a new intimacy that past commitments have prevented us from doing. Sexuality in the second half of our lives helps us to rediscover desire and to share and love in a purer, more expert and conscious way, without social and family conditioning.

ACCEPT THE CHANGE IN YOUR BODY

To experience sex in a fulfilling way after fifty, you have to adapt your expectations: you can’t expect to perform the way you did when you were 20, and you can’t expect your body to be like it was when you were young. It is essential to be able to accept and adapt your body to new sexual stimuli without fear. It is essential to take care of yourself by going to the hairdresser, the beautician, with makeup and a nice dress. This will make you feel more confident.

You should also try not to have unwarranted fears that could jeopardize the relationship. It is important that the other person does not have expectations and demands, but understands that life changes.

CHANGES IN WOMEN

When a woman enters menopause, she experiences not only physical changes, but above all psychological changes that, with their modes of expression (anxiety, irritability, depression…), provoke in the woman an identity disorder. If the sexual and social life was full and gratifying before, it can still be, the important thing is to accept the changes. If the drop in hormones and vaginal dryness caused by menopause leads to a loss of libido, talk to your doctor who will prescribe estrogen-based gels. If the problem also involves atrophy of the vaginal mucosa, burning and blood loss, the hormone problem can also be solved in this case. But the important thing is not to give up and always talk about it with your partner and a doctor.

CHANGES IN MEN

The situation is different for men: from a reproductive point of view, they are always fertile, even if their hormonal production decreases with the years. However, the changes are slow and do not interfere with sexual life. As men age, however, they tend to reach orgasm much earlier and ejaculation is less energetic. Then the refractory phase gets longer, but this does not mean there are problems, just changes in sexuality. Sometimes erectile problems occur, for physiological or psychological reasons. In these cases, don’t give up, but talk to your doctor who can prescribe hormone treatment.